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Marriage and Money: 10 Tips for Financial Bliss


"Finances are often a source of stress both for new and long-term couples. Dr. John Gottman who has done ample research on couples and what makes some be masters at relationship recommends to have conversations about money and beginning by setting up a budget comfortable for both so 'you don't end up with a budget that forces either of you to become a martyr.'

Some recommendations on books on financial planning are Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin (Penguin, 1992) and of course to check with your financial adviser. Below is a link to some good things to keep in mind when talking finances and marriage.

Betsabé Rubio LMFT, LPC

Original Post on Bank of America - Managing Your Money

Try these tricks to help get your relationship off on the right financial foot.


They say money can’t buy happiness, but when it comes to your marriage, just talking about money goes a long way. So to get the conversation started, here’s a checklist designed to help both you and your partner budget happily ever after.

On the road to marriage

Give yourselves a financial checkup Only about 57% of couples know their partner’s credit score before marriage. That’s pretty risky, since past mistakes can affect your future together. So get to know each other’s financial situation, like how many credit cards you each have and how you spend your money, including what kinds of things you both indulge in. Getting a good grasp on your significant other’s spending habits and financial picture will help you make decisions on how to merge your money after you get married.

Till debt do us part Get to know what your partner’s debt looks like before you combine your finances. If needed, you can work together to get debts paid down. Until that happens, keep your finances separate—for example, try to avoid opening a joint account, cosigning or adding your partner as an authorized user. You’ll want at least one good credit history to fall back on if there are wedding bells in your future. Our video from Better Money Habits, "Strategies for paying down debt," has some great tips to help you get started.

Save for the wedding…and beyond Once you announce your engagement, open a savings account earmarked for your financial goals and future expenses. Many experts recommend putting at least 10% of your combined income into savings each month.

Create a budget you both can live by Get all your bills and paperwork together and literally put everything out on the table. Calculate just how much you’ll owe each month, how much combined income you’ll have and what’s actually left when everything’s said and done. Don’t forget to factor in any potential wedding or honeymoon expenses. Also, it’s helpful to set spending limits. Before you take those vows, agree on a set dollar amount each of you can spend without talking to the other first.

Decide who manages what When it comes to handling your finances, it’s a good idea that each of you plays a part. For example, one person might take on the day-to-day bills while the other tackles long-term investments and retirement plans.

After the big day

To combine or not to combine? There are a number of different ways you can manage money in marriage. So weigh your options and figure out which method works best for both of you.

Joint account: Having an account with both your names on it makes it a whole lot easier to pay household bills like cable or electric since you’ll both be depositing into the same place. However, it also means that you’ll be drawing from the same account whenever you make a purchase. This means you and your partner will want to stay in communication about who’s spending what to avoid accidentally overdrawing the account.

Separate accounts: The main advantage of individual accounts is the freedom to keep a portion of your money all to yourself. And in most cases, those accounts can be linked so you can easily transfer money between accounts if needed. But on the other hand, with separate accounts you both must figure out who pays what when it comes to shared bills.

Linked accounts—yours, mine and ours: Want a mix of both? You may want to consider setting up a new joint checking account, funded by both of you, and use that money to pay bills you share—from household and wedding expenses to utilities. That way you each still have your own personal checking account for individual expenses as well.

Update your beneficiaries Once you’re married, you can name your loved one as a beneficiary, or the person who receives money and benefits if something were to happen to you. This applies to things like life insurance, 401k, your will and any other benefits for which they might be eligible.

Change your withholdings Married couples can decide to file either jointly or separately, so talk to your spouse and your tax professional about which avenue is right for your situation. Then, grab those W-4’s and take a second look at your payroll withholdings. Need help figuring it out? Use the Internal Revenue Service calculator. For more details, you can watch our video from Better Money Habits "The marriage penalty."

Have a financial date night Talking about money should be a healthy, ongoing conversation—there’s no reason to wait for something to go wrong. So set some time aside every month to delegate additional money-related tasks, talk about future financial decisions and see the progress you’ve both made toward accomplishing your goals.

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